Here's a checklist of symptoms:
- All-or-nothing thinking: You look at things in absolute, black-and-white categories.
- Over generalization: You view a negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
- Mental filter: You dwell on the negatives and ignore the positives.
- Discounting the positives: You insist that your accomplishments or positive qualities don't count.
- Jumping to conclusions:
- Mind-reading - you arbitrarily assume that people are reactive negatively to you;
- Fortune-telling - you arbitrarily predict that things will turn out badly.
- Magnifications or minimization: You blow things way out of proportion or you shrink their importance.
- Emotional reasoning: You reason from how you feel: "I feel like an idiot, so I must be one."
- Should statements: You criticize yourself or other people with "shoulds," "shouldn'ts," "musts," "oughts," and "have tos."
- Labeling: Instead of saying "I made a mistake," you tell yourself, "I'm a jerk" or "a loser."
- Personalization and blame:
- You blame yourself for something you weren't entirely responsible for/
- You blame other people and overlook ways that you contributed to a problem.
*David D. Burns, MS. Revised 1992
Interesting - wonder which one you think I have....
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