Image Source I recently had an amazing sit-down visit with Johnny Day where he shared with me the pearls of wisdom he gathered over his years as executive secretary. As secretary, Johnny has the responsibility of scheduling wedding-visit appointments with the Bishop for couples in the ward. I see Johnny as somewhat of an authority on dating because b efore he'll schedule anything, he makes the couples tell him about their engagement and how they broke free from "the game." After analyzing their stories, Johnny reports that he has discovered three common findings: They all used the term "decided" when they talked about the moment in their lives when they were ready (or open, or emotionally available, or whatever) to get married. It seems that the default setting for YSAs in a relationship is to bank on it not working out. This perspective makes sense, because most relationships don't work out. But those that get married, have reprogrammed thems...
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