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8 Lessons from 8 Months of Marriage

Bryan's Lessons

  1. My idea is not necessarily the right idea.
  2. But even if it were, the relationship is more important than being right.
  3. When one of us is sad, and once the space is safe, it's helpful to approach an interaction with a tender hug. 
  4. It's an important habit to share a meaningful kiss as we come and go. (I picked that one up from watching The Importance of Kissing on The School of Life YouTube channel.)
  5. I didn't need many facial tissues before marriage. But now, it's worth investing in the Costco 12-pack.
  6. The temple is an excellent place to unwind from a stressful week.
  7. It's my job to never forget weekly date night or FHE.
  8. Intimacy cues are hard. It's important to clearly communicate what I want, whether it be that I'm tired…or not tired.

Stacia's Lessons

  1. Vulnerability…is hard. It's tough being seen as less than perfect by the one you wanted to be perfect for.
  2. Trials are much easier to face with two.
  3. Having a shared church calling (primary teachers) is a great way to get to know one another even better.
  4. You can travel using any name for which you have a valid ID. You don't have to change your last name right away.
  5. Share bank accounts. Or don't. It doesn't really matter as long as you are open about where the money is going.
  6. The family is still very interested in knowing everything that's going on but will respect your space.
  7. The Lord wants couples to be successful. He provides opportunities for you to grow closer together as a couple.
  8. Healthy eating and hydration habits can become less of a priority. Make them one.
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  1. RickWed Feb 03, 10:39:00 AM MST

    Great advice guys! I can't wait to go back to the temple with Heather once the pandemic is over.

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    1. Bryan TannerMon Feb 08, 05:11:00 PM MST

      Thanks for the comment, Rick. Sorry for taking so long to see this and respond. I'll have to get Blogger to notify me of comments.

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  2. Julie TThu Feb 11, 07:39:00 PM MST

    I love that you are able to process these lessons so quickly and be able to articulate them. I"m not very good at that and would love to develop that ability. Especially appreciated Bryan's #2 and Stacia's #1. Great corresponding quote: "In marriage, do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?" Often it just doesn't work out to be both!

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