2014 Dating Panel Audio Recording, Slate Canyon YSA Ward

Summary

This is a recording of an hour-long fireside. It features two married couples, both whom have recently "graduated" from the Slate Canyon YSA ward (with honors). In panel discussion style, they respond to dating- and marriage-related questions posed to them by their former peers. Questions were asked and answered in 4 sets of 3-4 questions over the course of the hour.

Panelists

Maizy and Tyler Cloutier

Shelly and Marty Cluff

Moderator

Bishop Van Orman

Participants

Slate Canyon YSA Ward, Provo YSA Stake ≈100 ward members in attendance

Recording Information

Recorded on Sunday, 2014-01-19

at the "Blue Roof Chapel"

by Bryan Tanner

using the VoiceRecorderHD app on an iPhone5.

Additional Information

While the audio recording of the dating panel is good, the real value of this post is the additional 5-page document, compiled by Bishop Van Orman, summarizing responses from a FAQ dating questionnaire he sent out to 20, former ward members whom have now married.

This document is full of amazing advice from former singles from the ward, now married. Here's a taste:

Is there something wrong with me? "Until you work through some of your personal issues and weaknesses, you may, to some degree, be keeping yourself from finding the qualities you seek in others."
What was the hardest thing in finally taking the leap? " I thought marriage as a scary and vulnerable thing that would only be fun if I was perfect. No one is perfect. I had to find what I love about others and look for that in a companion, and learn to let go of those little tiny annoyances."
What did you personally have to overcome and how did you do it? "[Realizing that I am responsible for making myself happy...having lists of 'qualities' you desire in a spouse, is selfish. If we look to others for our happiness, we will be unhappy.]"
"I decided I preferred rejection to not knowing."

If you liked this, you might also enjoy reading my 2012 dating interview blogpost: 3 Steps Towards Marriage.

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