What Do LDS Women Look For in a Spouse?

As an LDS, single man, I'm not entirely sure whether or not the answer to the titular question is knowable. Nevertheless, after some serious thought, I have identified 5 traits that I perceive LDS women (at least the ones I'm typically interested in) look for in men. I'd be interested to know if your thoughts in the comments.

By no means is this an inclusive list, or intended to be my final opinion on the matter. Rather, the list was developed based on personal dating (and a little bit of wishful thinking).

An LDS Woman Wants:

An equally-yoked partner

A patriarch who presides & protects

A man who magnifies his priesthood

Love & trust

A worthy model for her children

Upon reviewing my list, I was surprised to realize how similar it was to another set of behaviors that I had been cultivating since the age of 12, when I was ordained a Deacon in the Aaronic priesthood. These are the eight The Purposes of the Aaronic Priesthood, which I recited each Sunday for 6 years:

BECOME converted to the gospel of Jesus Christ and live its teachings.

SERVE faithfully in priesthood callings and fulfill the responsibilities of priesthood offices.

GIVE meaningful service.

PREPARE and live worthy to receive the Melchizedek Priesthood and temple ordinances.

PREPARE to serve an honorable full-time mission.

OBTAIN as much education as possible.

PREPARE to become a worthy husband and father.

GIVE proper respect to women, girls, and children.

At that time, girls were most attracted to beautiful smiles and how well a guy could throw a football. Who knew that 18 years later, women might regard these "boring" behaviors as potential marriage partner qualifications! While I don't claim to be a spiritual all-star, I think I'm pretty well on my way. By definition, I will never be able to meet all of these standards on my own. I will require some serious refinement from my future wife.

Here are some questions that will help me continue to become the man I want to be for my wife:

"What can I do for you?" (Daily)
"How can I be a better husband and father?" (Weekly)

I firmly believe that the key to a successful marriage is looking after the welfare of one's partner. President Gordon B. Hinckley may have said it best:

"I am satisfied that happiness in marriage is not so much a matter of romance as it is an anxious concern for the comfort and well-being of one's companion. Any man who will make his wife's comfort his first concern will stay in love with her throughout their lives and through the eternity yet to come." — What God Hath Joined Together, April, 1991.

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Natalie MarieSun Jul 28, 07:46:00 PM MDT
This is an excellent correlation. I'd never read the mission statement/purposes of the Aaronic Priesthood that way before. Thanks for sharing :)
The Interior Design GuyMon Jul 29, 12:18:00 AM MDT
It goes both ways. Haha :)

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