The Pros and Cons of Perfectionism

The Advantages of Perfectionism:

I'll work hard.
When I do great work, I'll feel terrific.
I won't settle for mediocrity and end up with a second-rate career.
My exceptionally high standars will show that I'm a very special and extremely talented person, and that I'm a cut above other people. After all, we wouldn't expect someone who's just average to be perfect!
My Perfectionism gives me an easy way to measure my self-esteem.
Other people will admire me because I'm so hard working and conscientious.

The Disadvantages of Perfectionism:

My perfectionism may create lots of stress and worry.
When I fail or make a mistake, it will feel devastating.
My perfectionism may prevent me from being creative and taking risks, since I'll be afraid of failure.
It will be hard to learn from criticism because I'll feel threatened and defensive. My self-esteem will always be on the line. This may annoy other people.
I often do my best work when I'm relaxed and not trying so hard.
I may lose sight of the bigger picture because I'll focus on all the small details.
I don't get along very well with others people when I get perfectionistic and demanding.
People seem to like me more when I express an interest in them, and not when I'm trying to impress them with my own accomplishments.
I may procrastinate because every task will seem overwhelming.
I'll never feel like I've succeeded because I'll never really be perfect at anything. There will always be room for improvement.

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